When the clock strikes midnight on December 31 some women find themselves in a number of different situations. Some of you are under the influence of some alcoholic beverage, some of you are in the arms of a good looking male and some of you might even be in church to welcome in the New Year. The one thing that many of you have in common on that fateful night is that you are often making that annual pledge to either eliminate or welcome some new aspect into your lives. The dreaded “New Year’s Resolution!”
You know the drill, “This year I’m going to lose weight, hit the gym more consistently, spend more time with that significant other, stop drinking, make better choices in regards to men”, blah, blah, blah. More often than not, by the time mid January approaches all your great aspirations are down the toilet and you’re back to being that person from last year that you swore you’d never be again.
To be honest with you New Year’s Resolutions are like tequila shots, they’re fun to take in the moment but they can leave you in a hot mess if you’re not too careful. According to the University of Scranton, a meager 8% of the people who make resolutions are actually able to keep them. So I got to thinking, why is it that so many people actually fail to follow through with their “New Year’s Resolutions? I came up with a number of reasons that I feel obligated to share with you.
Reason number one why people fail at the whole resolution thing is because deep down inside they were never actually serious about making that change. Case in point. If that change or resolution is so important to you why on earth would you wait until January 1st to make such an important life changing decision? Does the first of the year magically release some type of endorphin into the atmosphere that miraculously makes all dreams and wishes come true? If that was the truth the majority of us would definitely be living a different type of life. If your resolution was so damn important why the hell are you waiting to make that change, why not make it immediately? The answer is simple; you were never that interested in making that change in the first place.
Reason number two why females fail at the whole resolution thing, is that more often than not your resolutions are unattainable due to the people you surround yourself with or your lifestyle. People want to make these changes in their lives but they are only willing to go half way. Take for example the most popular resolution of the female gender. “This year I’m going to lose some weight.” So you sign up at a gym, or you start to follow the newest diet sensation. But your best friend who you are around 24 7, weighs a 110 pounds ( or whatever the ideal weight for a woman is) soaking wet, eats like a Sumo wrestler and has never been to a gym in her life. So how are you going to stay motivated to reach your goal when you are surrounded by people who are doing the exact opposite of what you need to do? Would a recovering alcoholic buy a bar? I think not. Now I’m not telling you to kick your friends and family to the curb! But maybe you need to ensure that you are surrounded by people who will help you achieve your goal, that are going to not only motivate you, but not hit you with the “I told you so” line when things start getting tough.
Reason number three why you fail with your resolutions is because 9 times out of 10, the resolution isn’t yours. I know what you’re thinking, “How could the resolution not be mine, if I’m the one who’s making it?” It’s actually quite simple. You didn’t actually sit down and come up with the resolution yourself. You were influenced by either the media, by society, or by friends and family. Shoot, if it wasn’t for Oprah and Dr. OZ and Dr. Phil etc. your resolution might be a lot different than what it actually is. Let’s be honest here ladies, how many of you actually enjoy doing things that you are told to do in comparison to things that you want to do. So you basically end up jumping on the wagon and trying to fit in with the current flow of society. That just makes your resolution that much harder to keep.
Reason number four as to why you may fail with your resolutions is because you often forget that change isn’t easy, it’s damn right hard and that’s exactly what a resolution is, change. So essentially you can’t expect to be able to do something just because you say you are and expect everything to be smoother than a baby’s backside. You need to realize that you may experience some sort of relapse. But when it happens all you need to do is jump back on the horse sooner rather than later. So if you swear that this year you are going to hit the gym three times a week, and by mid January you are down to once a week. Don’t give up and don’t procrastinate. The longer you wait to try and hop back on the harder its going to be. There is nothing wrong with starting all over and isn’t that really what this whole resolution thing is all about. I mean its actually one of the few times in life in which you get to press the reset button, with little or no complications.