“Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys and dividing our grief” – Cicero
Yesterday I was blessed to spend the day with my girlfriend of over 20 years and our families. Oh what immeasurable JOY!
Throughout the day we were able to reminisce, laugh, share treasured memories and discuss in hope-filled hushed tones our dreams for our princesses. Our girls, not quite two years apart in age, when not bickering like little ones – tend to relate splendidly to each other. Not at all surprising is the fact that our innate desires for them, including the hope that their friendship can withstand the test of time, are along a similar trajectory.
As we sat and shared a meal prepared by our own hands, after a few hours of enjoying a relaxing day on the ocean, the highlight of which included a swim with sea turtles and a close-up look at beautiful coral reefs as well as an old shipwreck, we both recognised two things. (1) How blessed we truly are and (2) How fast time has flown.
Almost in a twinkling of an eye , we moved from carefree teens with the penchant for travelling at the drop of a hat to adults whose primary desires are to raise our girls right and to see them grow into the beautiful, accomplished, successful and God-fearing young ladies we wish for them to be.
It was only yesterday, it seemed, when we entertained ourselves on a late-night chartered flight to New York City by “chatting down” “Gerard” – a young, personable Trinidadian Flight attendant – who was happy to hang out with us in the rear of the plane in between his tasks, flashing his endearing smile.
It was also fun galore, when we, much to the chagrin of well-meaning relatives, met Gerard at a nearby subway station on his day off, to spend the day in the city, topped by a visit to a popular West Indian neighbourhood where we devoured some delectable Trini rotis and caught up on the recent news from home. I won’t even mention the earful we got when he dropped us off at our stop, late-e-e-e that night, leaving us to walk the few blocks to our apartment, and this was in the pre-cell phone era. It got worse when with our ‘whatever’ attitude; we had the audacity to mention that our daily adventures also included a brief stop at Gerard’s apartment to run an errand. Talk about carefree!
Believe me, there are lots more stories to tell – but I know that you get my drift. We grew up together and grew together in knowledge and wisdom. And, despite shortcomings on both of our parts, we are still here.
I truly believe that God places good friends in our lives to fill voids in our families. . Some friends come into our lives for a reason, others for a season, and then there are those who come for a lifetime. All are of some worth, but those lifetime friendships are truly precious. There is nothing more honourable than to be called “friend”.
My encouragement for you today is to examine your friendships, determine which ones belong in the front row or in the balcony seats of your lives. Cultivate those friendships with are meaningful and above all: Be a friend so that you can have friends.
“Close friends are truly life’s treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves. With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us, to share our laughter and our tears. Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone.”
― Vincent van Gogh
Create A Great Day!