It’s the holiday season and we all know the drill! From the endless cooking sessions, the parties, friends and loved ones flying in from all over the world to engage in all things merry, to bundling up in pajamas with hot chocolate and cookies to watch decade old Christmas movies; it’s the same old song and dance that we anxiously look forward to each year. But leading up to the most wonderful time of the year, sometimes life happens; the good, the bad and the ugly, and for some people they will be forced to cope with many firsts this Christmas.
A birth – Welcoming a new baby to a family is an incredibly big deal! Babies tend to bring so much peace, tranquility and love to any household. During the holiday season, it could be an exceptionally great addition as the season already calls for love and joy that the scent of fresh baby lotion, mixed with grandma’s pumpkin pie, make the perfect concoction. Holidays seem to have a more festive kick once there’s a baby in the house.
New relationship – A new boo, some new gifts and spending more than enough quality time. Who wouldn’t opt for it? I’ve heard so many people complain about being single for the holidays and having to be the third wheel at all the parties around town, but a fresh new relationship just in the time for the holidays could make anyone want to walk around with their own mistletoe! Besides, this is the perfect opportunity to show off your new boo to family and friends, who will for sure help you decide if he’s worth keeping around for Valentine’s Day.
Marriage – Ahhhhh, yes, marital bliss! My sister got married this past May and this is the first Christmas she’s marking as someone’s wife. This is also the first Christmas that my house will have one less person in it as we open gifts on the big day. But on the upside, we’ve gained a whole new family through her husband which equals more gifts, more fun, and more people to talk to and enjoy the festivities with and yes…one more house to go to for that fourth Christmas plate for the day! WINNING!
Divorce – Divorce is hard and going into the holidays with a family divided could take a toll on anyone. It’s certainly enough to take a toll on what’s supposed to be a fun, family holiday. Shopping in the mall for gifts, going to various events and parties and seeing everyone else with their significant others and family could make you the Grinch of anyone’s holiday. But surrounding yourself with family, friends and other loved ones while basking in the love and support you have nearby is all you need.
Death – This one certainly hits home…hard. My grandmother Sylvia was synonymous with Christmas. But when she died in January 2014 that Christmas, nor any after that I’m sure will not be the same. A death in the family weighs heavy on any family, but it seems to amplify during the holidays. We got through the tough time by carrying on some of the traditions my grandmother had started, cooking her favorite holiday treats and doing exactly what it is she would have wanted us to do…party and enjoy family!
Failed Relationship – Whether going into the holidays fresh off of a breakup from a boyfriend, girlfriend or even a friend, it’s still a tough pill to swallow. These relationships become so engrained in our daily lives that it could sometimes feel like a death in the family when they go sour. Partying is not the same, shopping for gifts takes on a new meaning and even Christmas feels a little different. Still though, party, shop and enjoy Christmas anyway! Cling closer to friends and family, meet new ones because you never know who will stick around for the next Christmas!
Whether you’ve experienced the good, the bad or a mix of both this year, to me, the holidays simply exist to bring relief to all of our troubled times we have to endure throughout the year, and adds the cherry on top of all the amazing moments! Happy holidays!