I am absolutely thrilled to join forces with The COCO Magazine to introduce this new monthly series of Asha Leaf Mo’tea’vations. Asha Leaf Tea is a new and exciting brand of Caribbean Loose Leaf tea. An artisan tea, made with sun dried, and delicately selected whole leaves, fruits and herbs. In each series, I will choose one of our famous blends to set the tone for each theme – and with this month’s theme being ‘A Mother’s love’, there is no better way to settle down and retreat with a warm cup of our popular ‘Soothing Lemoninger’ blend. Filled with therapeutic properties, along with its captivating aroma – this tea blend is the perfect way to devote precious time to pamper your spirit and promote your overall well-being while reflecting on the beauty of a Mother’s love.
As a mother myself, there are times when words cannot adequately explain the depth of or extents for which I would go to for the sake of my children. Simply put – a mother’s love is unconditional. But what exactly does unconditional mean? It is a commonly used term in relation to motherhood, however it can have many gray areas. Does it mean sacrificing all for the sake of your children, including your overall happiness? Typically when referring to a mother’s love, we think of characteristics such as: being a compassionate caregiver, who is sacrificial of personal time, resources, recreational, and even career development goals. A Mother’s love is often defined as being innately nurturing above all. After having carried a child for nine months, I learnt how to share my personal space, and make numerous sacrifices for the overall well-being of my growing baby. After giving birth, nurturing my baby was not something I had to tell myself to do, it was automatic.
This new journey of motherhood has taught me a great deal in a short period of time. It started when I began noticing the way my son looks at me with amazement while observing me do something that I truly enjoy. I also notice how he enjoys seeing me sing and dance in my car. I have learnt that children want their mothers to take care of themselves. Although they are demanding of their parents, they enjoy meaningful and quality time spent, as opposed seeing their mothers being overworked and run-down. They want to see their mothers enjoy their lives whole heartedly.
So what exactly does this look like? This is the question I often ask myself. Yet, I find motivation from the manner in which a female lioness embraces her role as a mother. A lioness can be nurturing and ferocious. She is a go getter. She works to accomplish a lot, without neglecting her cubs or other responsibilities. Along with a team of lionesses, they hunt for the food that feeds their pride. “Mothers must remain in ‘top’ condition in order to provide for their cubs.” If a lioness does not maintain her well-being, she cannot provide for her cubs and her pride. The key piece is that lionesses work together. Not only do they hunt together, they raise their cubs together. Lionesses in the same pride will care for the cubs of another lioness. Essentially “female lions gain strength in numbers”. Without taking away from the importance of a father’s role, I find this particular approach beneficial to mothers of today’s generation. The stronger the village, the more opportunity a mother gains to dedicate necessary time and energy towards her own self-care, hence reinforcing her ability to love, nurture and or provide for her children.
So my message to mothers this month, is to consider the legacy you wish to pass on. Your life is a developing work of art, for which you will pass on to your family one day. What do you want that painting to depict? The choice is completely up to you. What are the key images and themes you want to be highlighted in your canvas? How will your love build the capacity of your children? It is important for me to note that these points are not to take away from the validity of a traditional stay at home caregiver role, but to act as a compliment. The reality is that motherhood does not come with a manual, and no two mothers were born alike. But the key is to continue doing the things that make you happy, the things that make your spirit shine from the inside out. This in turn will enrich the lives of your children and family, while enhancing your ability to love.
Now there’s some food for thought to accompany a warm cup of Soothing Lemoninger, Asha leaf Tea. Enjoy!
Quotes provided by: Lion-den.tripod.com