It is not easy to increase your confidence when you are confronted with people’s negativity, and the same is true with women. Women who take action to become more confident show more self-assurance, competence, and responsibility. But do they really achieve the results that they desire? This article will reveal some tips to increase your confidence and find that it really can be done.
First and foremost, you must realize that while you are trying to get things in your life, whether physical or emotional, you have to get the whole package. You can’t just expect one part of your life to be great.
For example, if you don’t have the correct attitude to get the job you want, it doesn’t matter how attractive you are. You also need to have the right mindset. To get into a confident frame of mind, you need to learn how to do proper research.
There are many different things that you can learn from this kind of research. For example, you need to know what sets you apart from others. When you know what sets you apart, you also know what you should do differently in order to stand out. These differences can lead to areas of your life where you stand out, such as networking.
Let’s say you have a certain time at work in which you will only deal with good clients. If you try to attract others with money, it may seem like you are asking for trouble. However, you need to know what it takes to get people who trust you, and not just others with money, in order to stand out.
For example, some people like to talk to people they are attracted to. This makes them feel attractive, and they feel powerful and attractive. You may wonder why they want to socialize with you, but they probably just want to talk. In order to increase your confidence, it is vital that you understand this subtle difference.
On the other hand, you may also want to get into a situation where you have to deal with people who don’t want to talk with you. Some people have a very nice personality, and they are naturally very confident. In these situations, it is not the case that confidence is a result of liking yourself. Instead, it is the opposite.
If you have ever talked to someone you were attracted to, and you didn’t work at it, you would understand this well. They just love talking to you, and they have nothing else to say to you. They just want to hang out and have fun with you. If you like talking to them, that means that you will find it easier to learn how to speak to them.
Of course, there are certain times when it is better to avoid people who look like they are rejecting you, because the reality is that they will continue to reject you no matter what. So you must stand your ground in certain situations. It is crucial that you learn how to stand your ground and know that it really can be done.
However, if you get into social situations where you are expected to win, you will quickly learn that you must stand your ground. While you are winning those competitions, you will also be learning to overcome various arguments that other people will throw at you.
The question is, what should you do if you get into one of these situations? The first thing to do is to have the determination to win, and then to keep trying even if you lose a few times. As you win more, you will begin to understand the human psychology, and that you are a winner. You will learn that you can win in every situation, and that the game doesn’t have to be rigged against you.
Do Something That Is Outside Of Your Comfort Zone Every Day.
I think when you want to increase your confidence, the most counter-productive thing is to force yourself to go from level 0 to 100. If you fear approaching people and talking to strangers, it can be super intimidating to make your goal talking to every other person around you. It’’s so much easier to set small goals and take baby steps towards it. With the given example, you take the following steps:
- Look others into the eyes
- Smile at them
- Talk to them/ask them something
Follow Your Own Advice.
Another way to increase your confidence is to start following your own advice. Stop asking other people for their opinions so much. Always needing approval instead of just giving yourself the permission to do something, is actually a sign of insecurity. Seeking advice is generally awesome and in most cases beneficial, but it depends where you’re coming from. If it’s due to a lack of confidence and you need someone’s approval, it’s definitely not healthy. From my experience, every time I listened too much to other people, I ended up making decisions that didn’t work for me. Take your own advice and ask yourself questions. You’re the one person who knows you better than everyone else. Ask yourself the following questions:
“What do I want?” “What is it that makes my heart jump because it makes me so happy?” “What is my intuition telling me?”
And then act accordingly. That’s what confident people do. They don’t need other people’s permission and just give themselves the permission to pursue their dreams. It will also draw people to you because it’s always inspiring to see people who are confident and happy with who they are and what they’re doing.
Let Go Of Negativity
Have you ever noticed that confident and positive people don’t spread as much negativity? They always look on the bright side of life. The good news is, everybody can learn to do that. It’s just like a muscle you can train. The way you talk about yourself and others matters a lot. When you always tell yourself “It’s not possible for me”, “I’m not good at this” or “I’m going to fail”, it’s pretty likely that you will get that back in return. Your thoughts create your reality and you’re the one who is in charge of your thoughts. One practice that has helped me a lot to observe rather than react, is meditation. I recommend starting small but being consistent with it, 5-10 minutes every day. It will get easier and easier over time and the benefits are amazing.
Make A Promise To Yourself And Keep It
I think true confidence and most importantly, self-respect is built when you keep the promises you make to yourself. I’m not sure if you ever thought about this but how often do you disappoint yourself?
How many times did you tell yourself that you will start working out everyday but didn’t follow through? How many times did you tell yourself you would wake up at 6am but never did it once?
Conversely, how often do you disappoint others? I’d guess that you probably almost always keep the promises you make to other people. When your boss calls, you immediately drive to work, when somebody needs your help, you show up, when you decide to meet your friends at 8pm, you’ll be there at 8. The problem is that you basically always put others first. Start keeping the promises you make to yourself a priority and work on that. After all, you’re the most important person in your life and you’ll be so proud once you stop disappointing yourself on a daily basis.
Stop Caring So Much What Other People Think Of You
I think this is one of the things that holds people back the most from being their most confident and authentic self is the judgement of other people. I know that “stop caring so much what other people think of you” is easier said than done but this mindset shift might help you.
Why do you value the opinion of other people so much when they don’t even fully know yourself? Not even your partner or your parents fully know yourself. The only person who has all the context is you. So why do you let somebody’s comment or opinion affect you so much when they don’t even know who you are inside. Not caring so much about what other people think is also something you can train.
You may want to increase your confidence so that you don’t have to worry about how other people perceive you. As you do this, you will also experience self-confidence and self-assurance. In the process.